In his analysis, like many others who have taken the introspective approach to this issue, he denies the victim. It’s almost like he is saying that because black men participate in these cultural tenets, then the behavior that comes from it is worthy of harassment, oppression or even murder. He denies, not explicitly, that this was a tragedy, and almost implies that Trayvon deserved it.
My problem with these people who argue this point is that, am I not allowed to enjoy rap music in all of its ignorance and glory, even though white people overwhelmingly purchase the music, and attend the concerts more than black people? Am I not allowed to dress the way I feel I want to dress for fear of being shot? Can I be whomever I chose to be regardless of me needing to be a totem for my race?
Any other young man in our society can enjoy that freedom without fear for their safety why do we need to change to fit a society that has unfairly dealt us a bad hand. No one has forgotten about the problems of Chicago, but while that continuous violence is happening within our village another force has decided to attack our village, and right now is the time when we take a stand and stand up as a tribe and defend that village. We can fight with each other we will handle that at home but should someone else be allowed to come in and destroy what little we have already built. White boys can walk around in trenchcoats, makeup, black nail polish, anarchistic shirts, and the like and he’s seen as troubled, artistic, or sensitive, but a young black man who wears gold teeth, fitted caps, baggy jeans, and hoodies are a threat, dangerous or a thug. The saddest part is when White boys do the same they are seen as normal. Why can’t we stand up and fight and afford our young black man the freedom to live his life emulate his heroes and grow safely, without ridicule from a country that has grown him yet continues to tell him you do not belong unless you fit our mold of what you should be, while everyone else can be whomever they choose to be.
To be Black is not a singularity of experience, we all have subjective lives, we don’t all see the world the same because we are people, we are human and we are individuals, with most of us only sharing commonalities in levels of melanin in our skin. So to offer a prescription for what Black folk ought to do, or that black people ought to be is ignorant in itself. I am a man who happens to be black, I am intelligent, I am dark skinned, I love rap music, sometimes of the most ignorant nature, and I love chicken and watermelon, but I also love philosophy, rock and roll, art, cooking and nature. Yet, the former are what many have used to define me within my blackness. I once was exactly like Trayvon Martin. I wanted gold teeth, I listened to violent music, I was fairly tall and bold, and I dressed like many would consider a thug, and undoubtedly I would have reacted the same as he did that night.
Further I believe every seventeen year old boy would behave that way if they noticed someone following them, at night, while they were alone, in the rain. Especially during that time in your life when you are toeing a line of adolescent immaturity with physical manhood, you are a strong as you’ve ever been and everything you have ever been taught in your life has told you not to be a “punk” or to defend yourself. If a stranger decided to follow me I would confront him too at 17 years old and stand and defend myself, even more ferociously if I saw a man whom I believe is carrying a dissenting opinion of me based on my skin color. because at 17 I don’t have the mental capacity nor the maturity to remember that anything could happen, that this person may want to kill me, that this person may be armed or that he failed police psychological exams, Me nor any 17 year old boy would have that capacity, therefore they may have all lost their lives that night.
Unless of course they are not black, because then they would have the privilege of being assumed to be a resident of the neighborhood who was just walking home, or maybe even they could have been visiting a friend or at worst sneaking his girlfriend out of the house like thousands of 17 year old boys have done and will continue to do forever. Unfortunately Trayvon didn’t dress and behave according to the “right” guidelines for safe young black male perception, that book of unwritten rules black males have to live by daily in order to not be seen as dangerous or a threat, so he was shot to his death in a fight between two men, an altercation, in which whether one feared for his life or not, did in fact kill the other and that young male happened to be black, and enjoy the things that his contemporaries, whether, White, Black, Asian, or Hispanic, all enjoyed.
So to rebuttal what Mr. Malco has said yes there is an introspection that must be done within our village, in order to fix some of those pressing internal issues that have halted or growth as a people, and of course no time is right like the present. However, because I choose to live my life a certain way does not change my desire for love, respect, compassion, empathy or any other tenet of humaness. No one will forget the young black boys of whom we are losing with great haste in Chicago, but at the moment we are remembering Trayvon and reminiscing on times that we thought were almost gone. Right now we are healing as a people for the loss of a son at the hands of an outsider, as much as we mourn for the loss of our sons at the hands of his brother. Both problems need to be solved but right now we are remebering our newest unfortunate martyr in the struggle for real equality.
I have always been someone who believed that it is greater to serve your community, than to serve yourself. I have always been inspired by the legend of my great-grandfather. He was a community leader and head of the NAACP in Kingstree,SC, he was responsible for getting the mail to run through certain areas of his town,as well as getting the train to run through his town, the train is, to this day, the only major mode of transportation that comes into that town. When I visit I get inspired whenever I see a train stop. He was only 5’3” tall and very skinny, he also only had a 3rd grade education. Despite his small stature and lack of education, he still is a well remembered figure in that part of South Carolina and I am very proud to call myself a member of his family. I’ve learned from the stories about him that it does not matter the obstacle you can always be, and should always be someone who helps other. I may never end poverty in my lifetime, but I hope to make a huge dent in it. There should never be a reason why any child goes hungry or is made to feel like they are less than someone else because of a situation they live in. I hope one day that this will be a reality and this is what has always drawn me to service.
Most people believe in God without question, and they base it completely on faith without a drop of tangible evidence.However, If someone says they received a message from God, or a child believes in Santa until they are 15 or if someone has a great idea but we don’t understand it, we dismiss them and call them crazy, immature or what they believe is impossible. All these concepts are based on the same amount of fact and faith, so in 2012 when someone tells you they believe in something have a little more faith before you be the “voice of reason”.
Many people talk about how blessed they’ve been and how happy they are to be alive to see a new year, but I can’t help but feel differently. I feel like the world has continuously kicked me when I was down and as soon as I was able to get back on my feet life sucker punched me, tripped me, then kicked me in the ribs again.
I’ve had opportunities that I let pass me by, I’ve felt like a failure, I’ve quit and in 2011 I lost continually, In 2012, it won’t be my year and it won’t be anything new unless I change me. I’m not praying for change I’m not willing to make or wishing well for myself. This year I’m done being the good guy and playing by the rules, because life fights dirty so I’m gonna start eye gouging, kicking in the groin, and pulling hair.
Many people think change is fate or divine favor but I believe it’s reward,maybe divine, maybe not but either way it’s reward. This year I’m putting it all on the line for my success. The only question I’m concerned with is will this action make me more successful if so then It’s time to work!!!!
I never had a drop of good luck in my life but I’m gonna get what I want because I’m tired of waiting for it to be delivered because I think I work hard and deserve it. I’m gonna win even if I have to tear down the buildings of my college or skyscrapers on wall street or start punching random people in the balls I’m gonna be successful this year
Inequality as a Catalyst for Dissolution of Romantic Relationships
All relationships maintain a minimum level of of inequality. Those inequalities are what make romantic relationships worthwhile and also are what differentiate them from friendships, where something as simple as missing some phone calls can destroy that relationship, however in romantic relationships there is a tolerable level of inequality. Social Exchange not only create these inequalities, but the lack of these exchanges also create inequality. In concurrence with Peter Blau’s Theories social exchanges build trust in the relationship, once that relationship in established romantic relationships gain the unique characteristic of having minimum inequality.
These relationships are exchange alliances and each partner is an individual coalition. Similar to the sociological Theory of Conflict the coalitions are always in conflict, however this conflict is dissimilar because it leads to constant attempt to reach equilibrium, like cybernetics. While these coalitions maintain balance with no one having an advantage over the other the relationship shall thrive, but when strain is in traduced from outside sources which disrupt the normal function of either partner it can create tension which is a catalyst for an unbalance. When unbalance is created, depending on the severity, it can negatively, or positively for that matter, affect the alliance. In the case that it does significantly impact the relationship, it tends to result in a power rift in the relationship. For instance, when a spouse commits infidelity that partner becomes either indebted to their spouse or apathetic toward the situation on a whole causing their significant other to become either the power holder or the subordinate, respectively. As with all social exchange the only way to realign the balance of power in these situations is to seek vengeance, not necessarily vengeance in the negative sense ass it is most often used, but as a mode of reciprocity that seeks to reestablish balance following a game-altering emotional response, whereas it is an action that is always in direct response to introduces strain and is in direct proportion to the act that creed the strain. In other words i”If you cheat on me, then I will cheat on you”. The problem lies in the fact that this vengeance not only needs to be proportional but it also must have the same emotional effect on the original offender that it has on the respondent.
Similar to when a man proposes to a woman, by the woman responding is an act of vengeance, because by this man admitting to this woman that he wants to spend his life with her he creates a power rift, to balance the power back she answer “yes” which in turn re-balances their relationship not only by reciprocal action but also by invoking the same level emotional response in both partners, adversely if she says “no” then she allows the unbalance to continue and there is only a limited amount of time this relationship can continue to survive with these two “coalitions” being at odds and having an unbalance, thusly if vengeance is not taken in these situations these relationships dissolve.
“Oddly, black people seem to think that urban clothes brands found at their local Macy’s are premium clothing. As much as I think that $80 is too much to spend on jeans, if you think that means you have money, perhaps you need to google Escada. Wow you’re terrific Louis Vuitton purse with the monograms is attractive in the hood, it’s tacky in the suburbs. Simply put, when you watch the awards, there’s a reason why the reporters ask women, “What are you wearing?” Because they can’t see it printed all over the dress.”—Street Rodent Secrets: How To Know If She’s A Hoodrat | undressingHER - LUST. LOVE. LIFE.
I have come across too many flash based websites lately that ignore the concept of usability. Being a developer who is just getting into the game with Flash development I find it hard to understand how so of the simplest concepts of interaction on the web are being ignored.
I found a few sites(who shall remain nameless, to protect the developer) where it seem like the agency who created it opted for a cool tricks over a solid usability core. It baffles me how when building on a platform whose whole stigma is interactivity with the medium, how something as simple as making sure the user understands how to use it is being put aside.
I’m no expert on either subject ,but it seems to me that if I want a site to be interactive that it should should also be just as usable.
Too often these days I see everybody dressed the same…and everybody does the same thing the last guy did. I guess I just grew up different, but when I was growing up we did our best to make sure we had our own style. So I’m not trendy in the any sense, I’m stylish and I don’t just mean in fashion I mean in life in general, I’m my own man at all times, I wear what I want and I do what I want, no need to be like everybody else I’m unique, I try to be anyway. Just a thought
I wonder if behind close doors Obama is like other black men in the fact that he doesn’t take alot of nonsense from other people. I often wonder if Obama wnats to punch someone in the mouth, like Joe Wilson for example. I wonder if he wanted to confront him mano-a-mano.
I think he does and I think McCrystal would be in trouble if he ever wanted to act on those inhibitions of his. Someone in that White House knows that Obama can fight and their telling McCrystal that on the way to the meeting. I imagine they would whisper to him” Hey, McCrystal you know Obama can fight right, and he’s sick of your slick mouth!” or Something to that effect, but Our President is better than that I guess so until I meet him I’ll never know…smh.
After watching CNN this morning and hearing the comments of General McCrystal towards our president I’m left with two parallels. The first is that on wondering whether or not the White House is going to be fair and take this issue with the grain of salt it deserves, and do they know Obama is a black man from the southside of Chicago(he don’t play that).
I don’t understand why McCrystal(herein referred to as G) is going to be punished for some remarks he and his cohorts made at the expense of the President. I’m a huge supporter of Obama, but we still live in a nation unto which one of major freedoms is the right to say what we feel without fear of persecution so just because a guy says some off hand remarks about his boss while at the office water cooler and the new guy decide to blow the whistle on him, I don’t think it means he should lose his job, yes he should be reprimanded but his position is vital and the decision is hopefully going to end with him being disciplined while still keeping his position.